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Look in the Mirror: See a Caregiver

We are living in an era when the roles we expected to play are not necessarily in line with what we imagined. For the first time, we are realizing the demands put on the shoulders of caregivers…teachers, nurses, doctors, daycare workers, nursing home personnel, firefighters, and our police.

It is in our homes with young children that the burden of being parent, teacher, nurturer, and taskmaster has really brought to the surface a serious amount of stress that didn’t exist before the COVID-19 pandemic took hold and everyone was forced into a new reality. How many times have you heard parents say, “My child won’t listen to me, thank heavens his schoolteacher can work with him/her”?

It is in this time of COVID-19 that the role of the teacher is certainly augmented because of all those children who are learning online in a home environment that has tried to take on the characteristic of a schoolroom. Many of the frustrations that parents and teachers are experiencing in this new environment are to be expected, but there are also some ways of reducing the stress for both the parent and the student.

For many years I have had success with the use of the Kolbe A™ and student assessments that help individuals understand not only why they have stress but also how they work with other people. This assessment helps them understand their instinct to process information as they strive for their own creative success. These assessments also honor each person’s unique ability and give them the opportunity to understand their own importance to the world in which they live.

The Kolbe assessments have been developed over Kathy Kolbe’s lifetime career. She has used her expertise to develop assessments that provide valid and reliable results. She has identified and clarified the existence of cognitive strengths that determine people’s methods of striving to achieve goals. She has helped provide an understanding of how we uniquely accomplish results and achieve our goals. Kathy calls this state of existence each person’s MO (Mode of Operation). Her work has guided large corporations, government institutions, schools, and individual families. There are many Kolbe assessment tools, but in this article, I would like to focus on three different assessments categorized by age groups.

The BrainyAct™ assessment is for children from age three through age nine, the Student Aptitude™ Quiz for ages 10 through college, and the Adult Kolbe A™ index for those who have completed school and are at home or in the workforce. BrainyAct™ Natural Abilities Assessment is for all children including many special needs children, for example, those who are ADHD or who have low vision or who have a variety of other needs. This assessment is a way to open the door to discovering their cognitive ability. It also is a guide for them to achieve success. It allows each child’s parent or teacher to understand and support the child’s unique way of learning and achieving success.

The Student Aptitude™ Quiz is for the child who has a tenth-grade reading level. This helps parents and teachers assist the child in the same way that The BrainyAct™ Natural Abilities Assessment helps the younger child’s parents and teachers. It helps the child understand how to use natural instincts to reduce stress and achieve success. Children need to feel that their unique contributions to this world are to be cherished and praised.

It would be helpful for the adults, to take the Kolbe Adult A™ Index in order to understand the effect of how they interact with their own child, teenage, or college student. The Kolbe for adults would help them discover how COVID-19 conditions are also affecting their cognitive instinct. As an example, the assessment could reveal how to accommodate a remote work environment based on their own instinct. Working from home has forced individuals to adjust to the elimination of the collaborative office environment that existed at the beginning of this year. Now, working from a remote site, usually at home, workers have had to adapt to a homework environment. The Kolbe A™ Index can explain methods to reduce stress. In the same way, Kolbe strategies can provide methods about how to guide children and students dealing with the stress of their own.

Family members have taken on additional roles in providing for the day-to-day lives of their children because of COVID-19. Parents find themselves taking on the teacher role and physical education supervisor for their children. Because of this dynamic change in our daily interactions, it is helpful to understand the underlying conditions that this change causes. Tension is often a result of these changes and the result can easily cause stress. Knowing how an MO operates, allows you to be yourself and adjust for the impact you have on others. It also allows you to respect the MO of others and give them the same freedom to be themselves.

We have been handed a new reality in which we must each adjust, take on new roles, and be the best caregivers we can. The first step to achieve this is to understand ourselves and then understand the natural instincts of those for whom we are caring for. 

Check out (for Kolbe A™ Index) and (for Student Aptitude™ Quiz and BrainyAct™ Natural Abilities Assessment) to get further information about how the Kolbe process might further enhance your life.

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” (author unknown)

Article contributed by Scott Lebin. Scott has been a Kolbe Certified™ Consultant since 2008 and is also a Kolbe Youth Specialist™ and BrainyAct™ Provider.

“Student Aptitude™ Quiz and BrainyAct™ Natural Abilities Assessment is the trademark of Kathy Kolbe and Kolbe Corp. All rights reserved. Used herein with permission.”

The Kolbe A™ index is the trademark of Kathy Kolbe and Kolbe Corp. All rights reserved. Used herein with permission.